It is not my intention to use this forum, which you so kindly grant me, to blow off steam. This evening it is exactly that.
“…. still ….” Today a person who I respect was impacted negatively by one word in a comment made to him/her.
In my many years as a wheelchair jockey I’ve heard many backhanded compliments that were hurtful to the person on the receiving end. A lady I know was told, “You’re too beautiful to be in a wheelchair.” What?!? There are so many things wrong with that sentiment that it would take a room full of PhD’s to sort them out. I’ve been told that I look good “even if you are in a wheelchair.” Same thing again.
The word today, though, was “still.” It was followed by “beautiful.” That word is so often used as a backhanded compliment that it makes me cringe when I hear it.
If someone is beautiful, they are beautiful. If handsome, please say so. If nice, they are nice. I’m preaching to the choir. You all know this. Many of you have been impacted by it. I’ve deflected so many that it is just instinct. That skill, for lack of a better word, did not come easily, and it came at a price.
Thank you for hearing me out. Thank you for stopping by, and I’d love to hear your comments.
Photo is a drawing of the 60’s cartoon character Super Chicken. It is an angry chicken wearing a floppy, purple hat and purple cape headed out to save the day.