“Still” Letting off steam

IMG_1035It is not my intention to use this forum, which you so kindly grant me, to blow off steam.  This evening it is exactly that.

“…. still ….” Today a person who I respect was impacted negatively by one word in a comment made to him/her.

In my many years as a wheelchair jockey I’ve heard many backhanded compliments that were hurtful to the person on the receiving end. A lady I know was told, “You’re too beautiful to be in a wheelchair.” What?!? There are so many things wrong with that sentiment that it would take a room full of PhD’s to sort them out. I’ve been told that I look good “even if you are in a wheelchair.” Same thing again.

The word today, though, was “still.” It was followed by “beautiful.” That word is so often used as a backhanded compliment that it makes me cringe when I hear it.

If someone is beautiful, they are beautiful. If handsome, please say so. If nice, they are nice. I’m preaching to the choir. You all know this. Many of you have been impacted by it. I’ve deflected so many that it is just instinct. That skill, for lack of a better word, did not come easily, and it came at a price.

Thank you for hearing me out. Thank you for stopping by, and I’d love to hear your comments.

Photo is a drawing of the 60’s cartoon character Super Chicken. It is an angry chicken wearing a floppy, purple hat and purple cape headed out to save the day.

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7 thoughts on ““Still” Letting off steam

  1. It really makes me sad that so many people do not think before they speak! I kind of feel like sensitivity has been lost in today’s society. You are so right, you some is beautiful, then they are beautiful, not were beautiful. And a woman can be beautiful and in a wheelchair. Beauty isn’t decided based on whether a person is in a wheelchair, or not.

    I am glad you voiced this today! You can probably tell, this is a sensitive topic for me. My doctor had ordered for me to have handicap parking and people just stare sometimes and make horrible comments. I just wish that people would stop passing so many judgments onto others and just treat people with respect.

    Sorry about that rant! I am a very sensitive and passionate person that wishes the majority of the population would remember what respect means and practice it!

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  2. I’m sorry that your friend was impacted negatively. Hopefully she can forgive the careless remark and move forward so that its ignorance doesn’t hold her back. We all deserve better but don’t always receive it. Let’s shift our focus onto what does benefit us.

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  3. Your friend has a great friend in you, George and I hope she didn’t let this thoughtless comment take up much residence in her mind. Sometimes there just aren’t enough words. In situations like this, I always remember the phrase “if you can’t say anything nice…”

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